My Traumatized Little Misogynist

Do you ever see that traumatized, sad, unwanted, little boy masking as a man and just be extremely sad for him?

Because he's trained his heart to be cold towards women just because one or two women have hurt him. (Just 1 or 2 women out of at least 3.3 billion women have hurt him).

His misogyny runs deep, and it's not even rooted in any cute chivalry like "I don't want my wife to suffer so I won't let her work! I'd work all day if I can just to make her happy."

It's rooted in, "This girl broke my heart, she crushed my soul and left me for a better man. I know she didn't cheat on me, but she hurt me. And then again my mom also hurt me too many years ago by dying too; she hurt me. She left me alone to take care of my siblings all alone. So I hate women because they either leave and hurt me."

And they justify their misogyny by throwing females crumbs, by complimenting one woman, and then the rest would just pick their compliment from there. But they really can't just exist without tagging any woman who refuses to settle for less, any woman who had the world tear her down to the point she had to raise herself up and learn her worth, any woman who doesn't accept disrespect, as a "bitter feminist." He'd make funny memes mocking women who want equal rights. And because you, you who actually values women, think it's funny, you laugh. But you don't know you're encouraging his behavior. Indulging in his pure hatred for women.

He jokes about stereotyping feminists, he calls them man-haters when they're clearly not. He insults them. He twists words. He's TOXIC!

Do you also feel sad for any female in his life, because then you wonder how could anyone who has displayed this strong hatred for women respect, value any woman in his life? Value his wife? His girlfriend? His sister? And then you pity them too? Because he also gives off narcissistic vibes, and you put them all in your prayers to finally break free from the mentality he feeds them. God.

But do you also discover his misogyny is actually just rooted in fear? Do you realize he's a coward, a scared dog, who channels all his trauma into different things like writing, bodybuilding, photography, or even singing but never fully acknowledges them? He doesn't even act like he's healed, neither does he act like he wears his hurt as sleeves. He just acts like they didn't happen while telling you they did happen.

To the point you can sense he's hurt... but not enough to know he's worthy of your help.

Do you?

Inspired by Ijeoma Chinoyerem's Facebook Post.