Why Keep My Surname? The Uncomfortable Truth About Identity and Marriage

I don't think men even know why they want you to change your surname to theirs.

The Surname Change: A Rite of Passage or Erasure?

maybe it's a thing of property ownership, when you go through the tedious process and documents just to belong to him and only him, you kinda prove he's bought you.

that's why I secretly hope I never get married, I just want a kid who'd carry my surname, my lineage. me.

what happens to who you were when the surname is changed.

When 'Mrs.' Steals Your History: Who Do You Become?

all your prizes from primary school, all your certificates, awards, who you built.. she dies, or at least pauses until a divorce and in her place someone foreign is born, someone with your husband's surname but all your credentials. you kill Miss Teal to become Mrs Purple and Mrs Purple steals all you've ever been. Your bachelor's degree, your masters, your PhD, Mr Purple didn't slave for you, your dad did, Mr Teal paid your school fees, provided and cared for and you just throw it in the trash readily and give Mr Teal's father all your father's glory and hard work.

The Double Standard: Why Won't He Take My Name?

and to the mask and facade that likes to claim it's a sign of love, why don't you marry me then and take my surname since it's just about love?

Redefining Love: Beyond Servitude and Name-Taking

but why do men love like that, in a way that demands servitude. to cook and clean, to labour for his name proves you love him, how terrible is that. if it's all about expressing love, and it's just your love language then love me back just like that, cook, clean, labor for us, take my own surname.

but you won't... so you can't.