Embrace Vulnerability, Attract Real Love
The wrong people make you feel ashamed of your emotional vulnerability. You reach out—softening your hands to touch their shoulders—only for them to stiffen and shove you away. But the right one would lean into your touch, take a deep breath at the relief your hands bring, and feel gratitude for you. The problem is, we tend to internalize how the wrong ones treat us. We convince ourselves it’s our fault, that something in us repels them. Our touch must be acidic, unwanted—so we must be unwanted, unlovable. And we waste so much time trying to prove otherwise, to them and to ourselves. We scrape at our hands, dip them in boiling water, desperate to soften them further—to be more palatable. Because staying too long around the wrong people has a way of warping our sense of self. Staying too long around the wrong people has a way of diminishing us. Society frames emotional availability as something to be rationed or as a weakness and this often leads to self-blame when relationships d...
