Dating as an Elimination Program: How to Stop Settling and Start Selecting

dating is supposed to just show you what you don’t like.

while feelings are natural and attraction is divine and heavenly, the process itself really is just an elimination program. you learn

Rethinking Dating: Why It’s Actually a Selection Process

learn what you don’t like, what you won’t condone, what you might tolerate…. while there’s also the positive part of discovering aspects and attributes you would want to keep. dating primarily is a selection program.

Viewing Red Flags as Data, Not Bargaining Chips

but the problem now is we lead with emotions. when someone shows us these hurtful traits of theirs that… well hurt us. we stay and bargain.

we forgive and cry, we just unnecessarily hurt our selves instead of letting go and receiving the intel as data.

The "Dream Girl" Myth vs. Reality

like “hey, i don’t like a man who’s underneath every woman’s posts commenting shamelessly”

Why You Should Stop Internalizing Misogynistic Dating Rhetoric

but you see that silly male centered rhetoric of “if he wanted to he will”, those “he’s just not that into you”, “dream girl” gimmicks.

Moving From "If He Wanted To" to "What Do I Want?"

they waste your time so much by preaching you should internalize bull shit. and excuse my french. so you internalize it and say “if he wanted to he will, he won’t hurt meeee.” bla bla “if he were just that into me he wouldn’t”, bull bull… “if i was his dream woman he’d act differently” and hey? what about you? centralizing yourself? you don’t like what you don’t like and this man is possessing a trait you don’t like.

Define Your Corporate Structure: What is Your Bare Minimum?

think about it like you’re an organization, you’re a company with a spot open.

Treat Your Life Like an Organization with Standards

you have these QUALIFICATIONS you’re looking for in someone who’d work for you, don’t ya? bare minimum you just want someone who’d show up everyday… what’s your bare minimum? and don’t give me that bull of “nobody is perfect you have to settle eventually”, what’s your bare minimum?

Identifying Non-Negotiables: When to "Fire" a Partner

is commenting underneath every woman’s posts? breaking up with you every two minute because his older sister got him mad? is the manchild who never washes his dishes and always leaves them for you to clear, is the man who never spends on you but somehow always around you… part of what’s bare minimum to you?

no right? exactly. that’s a trait that is showing you, this person is not qualified to work in your company.

so fire them

Turning Leverage into Clarity

that’s why dating is really just leverage, allow what getting to know someone really is revealing to you what you don’t like..

Using Past Experience to Refine Your Future Selections

and then move forward with this new found knowledge and eliminate the next person who displays such traits because now you fully and 1000% know in your heart you don’t like this trait.

it doesn’t even sound easy so applying it might even be tougher but let’s change our view point on what dating really is. let’s look forward to breaking up and dropping people. let’s… date properly.

and have fun while at it too. 😉