What is internalized Misogyny—In Nigerian terms

Internalized misogyny

is how you as a lady jump quickly to brag about how "You don't keep female friends" whenever it is rumoured someone got poisoned by her female friend.

You start warning others about how your "gender dey shame" you Bs.

You start lecturing others on the disadvantage of being around female friends while knowingly or unknowingly fueling a stereotype AGAINST YOU too.

But well, continue na. Because to you, you're some better girl🤦🏽‍♀️😹and the rest of us can't be trusted.

Cow

"That's why I don't keep female friends because they're all evil" 😒or maybe because you're actually just so insecure 🤦🏽‍♀️? You can't stand being among other strong women, because it triggers jealousy and competition? You'd rather be the only girl among male friends so you can at least have all attention on you because "you're a girl" and they have to treat you like one? 🤷🏽‍♀️

Trace it down and you'd find out it's NEVER secure women who say shit like these, it's those people who LEGIT sit down and GOSSIP and backbite other women who enforce this bs stereotype 🤦🏽‍♀️

I mean I get it. You can do this shit to your fellow woman, but why must we all do the same? Why must all women be feared 🤦🏽‍♀️?

And it used to be sweeting you when these proud misogynist men hail you, because it satisfies and fills up a never-ending hole in you, in your want to be "different," to be unique. "I'm not like other girls who like to paint their nails all day, I like reading always." Well, why don't you just add "Pick me massa! Pick me" too while you're at it 🤷🏽‍♀️because that's who you are. A slave. A slave to a mentality that is enforced by men who hate women. It's sickening really. Your insecurity shows.

My Traumatized Little Misogynist

Do you ever see that traumatized, sad, unwanted, little boy masking as a man and just be extremely sad for him?

Because he's trained his heart to be cold towards women just because one or two women have hurt him. (Just 1 or 2 women out of at least 3.3 billion women have hurt him).

His misogyny runs deep, and it's not even rooted in any cute chivalry like "I don't want my wife to suffer so I won't let her work! I'd work all day if I can just to make her happy."

It's rooted in, "This girl broke my heart, she crushed my soul and left me for a better man. I know she didn't cheat on me, but she hurt me. And then again my mom also hurt me too many years ago by dying too; she hurt me. She left me alone to take care of my siblings all alone. So I hate women because they either leave and hurt me."

And they justify their misogyny by throwing females crumbs, by complimenting one woman, and then the rest would just pick their compliment from there. But they really can't just exist without tagging any woman who refuses to settle for less, any woman who had the world tear her down to the point she had to raise herself up and learn her worth, any woman who doesn't accept disrespect, as a "bitter feminist." He'd make funny memes mocking women who want equal rights. And because you, you who actually values women, think it's funny, you laugh. But you don't know you're encouraging his behavior. Indulging in his pure hatred for women.

He jokes about stereotyping feminists, he calls them man-haters when they're clearly not. He insults them. He twists words. He's TOXIC!

Do you also feel sad for any female in his life, because then you wonder how could anyone who has displayed this strong hatred for women respect, value any woman in his life? Value his wife? His girlfriend? His sister? And then you pity them too? Because he also gives off narcissistic vibes, and you put them all in your prayers to finally break free from the mentality he feeds them. God.

But do you also discover his misogyny is actually just rooted in fear? Do you realize he's a coward, a scared dog, who channels all his trauma into different things like writing, bodybuilding, photography, or even singing but never fully acknowledges them? He doesn't even act like he's healed, neither does he act like he wears his hurt as sleeves. He just acts like they didn't happen while telling you they did happen.

To the point you can sense he's hurt... but not enough to know he's worthy of your help.

Do you?